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Too Tired for Sex?

Too tired for sex?  We’ve all been there.  I have a 4 year old and I can tell you first hand there are a lot of distractions that can get in the way of your sex life.  Whether it’s children, work, or other demands in your life, sex sometimes comes last on your “to do” list.  Over the short term you may have to make adjustments and accept the fact, but unfortunately many couples allow this scenario to become the norm in their relationship and never learn how to balance life and intimacy.

What do you do?

Are you ready to create more balance in your life?  Below is my 4 step strategy to create the balance between work, family, and “play.” 

Step 1 – Recognize

Know when you’re in a slump and not making time to get your groove on.  Create a couple of triggers to let you know when you have to implement this strategy. 

For example: 

When “Not tonight honey, I’m too tired” happens more than 2 times in a row or when you haven’t had sex for more than a certain length of time.

Step 2 – Strategize

In Step 2 you are going to create a strategy to “fix” the problem.  Your strategy may be to have a date night where you can relax and consciously set the mood.  Or, you may simply commit to turning the TV off early and hitting the sack before you’re actually tired.  Your strategies are going to be different based on what gets in the way of intimacy.  Since I have a young child, there are just times of the day when it is not an option.  Date nights, early bedtimes, and sleepovers help us carve out the time we need to be together.

Step 3 – Commit

You’ve recognized the problem and you’ve created a strategy to “fix” it, now you just have to follow through.  Once you have your plan in place make sure you commit to making the time to do it.  Set a date (not too far in the future!), make sure your significant other knows about it (unless the surprise is part of the strategy) and make it happen!

Step 4 – Repeat

Creating balance and getting your love life back on track isn’t just a one time event.  Repeat this process until you’re back into a healthy rhythm.

This simple 4 step strategy has saved my love life more times than I can count!  Use it over and over again to put the zip back into yours.  It’s simple, effective, and best of all, a lot of fun to implement!

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Comments 1

  1. heather

    Thank you so much for posting this and everything that you post! It really helps me get a different and unbiased perspective on whats going on in my relationship

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